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My son savagely attacked my wife and I don’t know what to do.

My wife(39) and I(43) have three kids. Our girl Megan(18) and our sons Matt(16) and Josh (14) Since 8 or 9 months my younger Son Josh is obsessed with the idea that his mom is favoring our other kids over him. After he told me this I secretly started to watch my wife’s behavior with our kids. I noticed that she would always ask megan and matt to run errands with her and Josh had to ask her. She would also talk more to the older kids. She just seems to enjoy their company a bit more. But don’t get me wrong. She loves Josh too and enjoys spending time with him, just no as much as with Megan and Matt. When I asked my wife if she noticed this too, she said no and reassured me that she loves all our kids equally. I asked her to include Josh more and she promised she would but Josh still complained and started to disdain his mom. I suggested therapy to him but he declined. I continued observing the situation. The problem was that my wife’s favoritism would manifest in very little things . It was hard to ,,catch,, her if you know what I mean. The big thing happened on sunday when I was at a friends house. The family had planned to decorate the christmas tree together. This was a little ritual in our house. As you can imagine Josh was forgotten again. My wife and the other kids decorated the christmas tree without telling him. When Josh came downstairs and saw the decorated tree he confronted his mother. According to my daughter his mom just said that they just forgot him. This answer made Josh snap. He started to hit his mom in the face with his bare fists and choked her. He also kicked and punched his siblings when they tried to protect her. He only stopped when his mom fell to the ground. I rushed home when my daughter called me. My wife’s left eye was red and a bit swollen, her nose bleed and her neck was dark red. Matt and megan had to hold me to protect their brother from me. My wife was in a state of shock and couldn’t talk to me. After I came down a bit I called my father (who lives three hours away) and told him what happened. He agreed to come immediately to pick Josh up. Two days have passed and I have no idea what to do. My wife is slowly recovering from the shock and the beating but she doesn’t talk about it or Josh. My dad suggested that Josh should move in with his grandparents for at least a year to give everyone time to recover. But my fear is that one year apart will further destroy the relationship between mother and son. He has done something horrible and he will pay a high price for that. He is banned from his family home and is not allowed to contact us. He has left all his electronics here. His grandparents will be strict with him. Therapy is mandatory. But in the end I want my whole family together again. Not tomorrow, not in a month but one day. I get panic attacks over the question if sending him away is the right move. I feel like I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. He couldn’t stay after what he did but staying away will estrange him further away from the family. I simply don’t know what to do. Edit: I mentioned in my post that his mother LOVES him and that her favoritism was almost not noticeable. His siblings made the same observation and both of them love him too! He is not in Siberia, he is in the care of his grandparents. And sooner or later he will return home to the Christmas tree. I will ask her how she could forget him after I specifically asked her to include him more. I have many more questions. But not now. She was just assaulted in her own home by her own son. submitted by /u/drinkwater662 to r/TrueOffMyChest link comments
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