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*AITA for leaving a busy restaurant early after my bf made reservations for us which ruined my bfs night?*

My bf wanted to have a special night with me so he made a reservation to a restaurant and when we got there we were seated very close to a large table of like 30 people and as you can imagine it was very loud and we couldn't even talk to each other over the noise. I suspect he was he going to pop the question because he has been making hints lately and he said tonight was gonna be a really good night and he had something planned. Now why he would do it as this restaurant I don't know because it was our first time there together and we have no sentimental connection there. An hour goes by before our food comes out and during this time it's getting louder and I feel like I'm having a panic attack and I told my bf it was too much and too loud for me. He asks if I want to go and I said yes. Shortly after the food comes out we get boxes and as we're waiting to pay he's visibly shaking with anger, clearly very pissed off. It was only 8:30 by the time we got home and I was hoping we could watch or movie and not be upset the rest of the night and maybe eat our food but right when we got through the door he gave his to the dog. The next 4 hours were spent with him telling me how insulted he was that I didn't eat at the restaurant and that he put in a lot of effort into tonight and I ruined it. I told him I was having a panic attack which was hard for me to say as I feel very ashamed of it and I fear being judged as dramatic and silly, crazy etc to which he responded with "you don't need to go places with me anymore then" that made me cry and he hatefully asked why I'm crying. He then really tore apart my personality and actions and threw up every mistake I've made in the 10 months or so of dating. He said I was using him as an ATM ( I've never asked for one dollar from him but he does pay for meals which I'm always grateful for) he said he had something important planned and I ruined it. We had a good day up until that point and I'm so sad it was so easily ruined and his love was so quickly replaced with resentment for me. I wish I would've stuck it out at the restaurant and finished eating and let him do his thing. I so badly want marriage. I want a healthy happy stable partnership and I feel like I ruined my chance. I moved across the country for this guy and he's a bit older than me, divorced and tells me he wants to spend his life with me but now I'm very confused and hurt and I really feel like TAH and don't know if I should even stay in this relationship but i have no family and no friends and nowhere to go It's the next morning and I still have a massive headache from crying all night. Tell me your perspective please and thanks for reading. submitted by /u/Willing_String_1434 to r/AITAH [link] [comments]
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