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AITAH for not treating my niece and nephews as well as my own child after their mom went to prison for killing their dad

It’s really complicated but my sister went to prison in February of this year for killing her husband. They had three teenage children together, and my sister begged me to take her children in together. They had a meeting with a social worker who said if I didn’t take them they would be split up and send to different group homes/ foster homes. Probably group homes though. The kids wanted to stay together and live with me, so here they are. I’ll be honest, myself and my husband did not want them at all. Kids are expensive and a lot of work, and my sister and her husband didn’t do the best job at raising their kids. So they aren’t very well behaved. I get a small stipend for being their foster parent, but it barely covers their food. They all eat like they’re starving. It doesn’t cover clothes, Christmas presents, etc. over the summer I encouraged the kids to find jobs so they can pay for their school clothes in the fall, because I’d be giving them 50$ each to take to the Walmart and pick out a few clothing articles with. They were pissed because my son won’t have to work for his school clothes. I explained that taking them on wasn’t exactly something I planned for, and if they aren’t ok with working for their clothes and things they can try living somewhere else and see if things are better. Maybe at the group home they’ll give them hundreds of dollars to take to the mall like they want. Probably not but what do I know. The kids all wanted to play sports this school year and I encouraged them to do so. Their school has fundraising for kids who can’t afford to pay the fees, selling chocolate bars. I encouraged them to do that, and offered to drive them to different neighborhoods so they can sell them. The kids were mad because I expected them to do fundraising when my son doesn’t have to. My son does work but puts all of his money from his job in his college fund. They’re also mad because he has a college fund and they don’t. I explained to them that it’s only natural that I would treat my son differently than I would my nieces and nephews, and that I took them in at their and their mothers request, not because I wanted three more children of my own. They’re really mad at my honesty, but I’m not going to dance around the subject with them. I have no problem treating them the way any aunt treats their nieces and nephews. I get them a gift on their birthday and Christmas, and I’ll feed them while they’re here. But I’m not their mom. I feel like it’s not fair for them to be so angry at me when I didn’t cause this circumstance, and I’m already doing way more than I’m obligated to do. AITAH? Edit: a lot of people are telling me I’d be better off letting them go into foster care if the kids aren’t happy with me. Upon discussing things with my husband we’ve contacted the kids social worker and she will be finding placements for them and picking them up tomorrow. Hopefully someone else can do a better job than I have. I only decided to have one child and I think having four in the home, three of them being very difficult children, has been too much. My sister won’t be happy but maybe she shouldn’t have poisoned her husband. Thanks for your advice Reddit. submitted by /u/aitah1229 to r/AITAH link comments
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